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In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore a powerful shift in how we handle life’s challenges: are you reacting like a thermometer, or responding like a thermostat? When the world heats up or cools down, do you let it decide your mood and actions, or do you set your own tone from within? Through simple language and real-life examples, Francois breaks down the four things you can always control – your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions – and shows you how to practise this shift gently in everyday moments. This is a grounded, reflective episode designed to help you slow down, recalibrate, and lead your life from the inside out. If you’re ready to stop being pulled around by your environment and start choosing your mindset with intention, this one is for you. getclarity.co.za (http://getclarity.co.za)

To work with me personally please visit getclarity.co.za (http://getclarity.co.za) In this episode of Fresh Perspective, Francois explores one of the most common and quietest struggles many of us face: being relentlessly hard on ourselves. Beneath the surface of high standards and self-discipline often lies fear, fear of failure, rejection, or not being enough. Francois unpacks how the inner judge masquerades as responsibility but is really emotional avoidance in disguise. Drawing from his coaching work and psychology research, he guides listeners through understanding the difference between the Judge and the Coach within, one condemns, the other instructs. You will learn how to shift from self-punishment to self-leadership, how to identify the beliefs that keep your worth conditional, and how to respond to mistakes with clarity rather than cruelty. Through the story of kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold, this episode offers a reminder that our cracks do not disqualify us; they reveal where the light gets in. If you have ever felt trapped by your own high expectations or inner criticism, this conversation will help you lay down the whip and pick up the tools of awareness, compassion, and self-trust.

For more resources. (http://getclarity.co.za) In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we take a closer look at one of the most subtle traps of modern life — the feeling of progress that comes from staying busy. Francois explores how our endless checklists, colour-coded calendars, and constant activity can quietly become a form of productive avoidance. We tick every box, respond to every email, keep the engine running — yet deep down, we sense we’re circling the same place. Through simple language and thoughtful reflection, this episode unpacks: • Why we confuse movement with progress. • How busyness keeps us safe from facing deeper fears. • The emotional comfort we get from doing what we already know. • How to recognise when your checklist has become a hiding place. • A simple daily question to help you shift from “busy” to “brave.” You’ll hear why the checklist isn’t the enemy — it’s the mirror. And how, when we see it clearly, it can reveal what truly matters most. If you’ve ever ended a full day wondering why all your effort still feels empty, this episode will help you pause, breathe, and find direction beyond the boxes. Because real growth doesn’t happen when the list is finished — it happens when you start what’s not on it.

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For a Complimentary Life Coaching Assessment click here. (https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/free-assessment) In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore the profound concept of freedom and its intrinsic connection to the present moment. Through insights from Viktor Frankl and Krishnamurti, we discover how freedom is not something to be achieved in the future, but an inner liberation available in the now. By facing the present moment and not being trapped in thoughts of the past or anxieties about the future, we can experience true freedom. Embrace the power of now to break free from invisible constraints and live a life filled with love, joy, and conscious choices. getclarity.co.za (http://getclarity.co.za)

Visit getclarity.co.za (http://getclarity.co.za) for more resources. In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we continue exploring our most important relationship, our relationship with time. After looking at love in the last episode, today’s focus is on joy. But not the shallow joy of distractions or quick fixes. The deep, soul-filling joy that can only be experienced in the present moment. We explore the paradox that the path to joy is often unfamiliar and uncomfortable. By avoiding difficult emotions like sorrow, anger, or fear, we unknowingly avoid joy as well. Drawing on the words of Brené Brown, Kahlil Gibran, and the wisdom of scripture, this episode unpacks how grief, struggle, and emotional honesty carve out the space within us to hold more joy. With personal reflections and gentle guidance, this conversation invites you to stop numbing and start feeling. Because when we embrace the whole emotional landscape of time, even the hard parts, we expand our capacity to encounter joy in its fullest, most transformative form. Join me for The Unfamiliar and Uncomfortable Path Towards Deep Joy and discover how embracing sorrow and struggle can open you to the deep joy you were made for.

If you ever need my help, simply go to getclarity.co.za (http://getclarity.co.za) In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we delve deeper into the idea that our relationship with time is our most important relationship. We explore how being present in the moment allows us to experience powerful human states like love, joy, and freedom. The episode discusses how fear of intimacy with the present moment often leads us to dwell on the past or worry about the future, which prevents us from fully engaging with life. The importance of cherishing the present moment, regardless of whether it is painful or pleasant, is emphasized as a way to truly connect with reality and ourselves. Join us next week as we take a closer look at the states of joy and freedom. Much love Francois

To unlock more of your potential go to: getclarity.co.za (http://getclarity.co.za)   In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we explore the concept of the most important relationship in your life and discuss why it might not be what you initially think. Join us as we embark on a journey to understand the significance of your relationship with time. This topic is part of an ongoing process of writing a new book, delving deeper into how our interaction with time affects all other aspects of our lives—from marriage and parenting to personal growth and spirituality. We discuss the three ways we can 'dance' with time: spending, wasting, and investing it, and how recognizing and valuing time can transform your overall quality of life. Learn how to move in harmony with time to bring more clarity, meaning, and balance to your daily routines. Remember, if you change your mind, you can transform your life. Join me next time for more fresh perspectives. Bye!

In this episode of Fresh Perspective, we delve into the profound impact of the inner voice on shaping identity. Your inner dialogue, whether subtle or striking, sculpts your sense of self over time. We explore how repeated thoughts form beliefs that can limit, justify, or empower you. Learn how to distinguish between these voices and beliefs, and discover practical tools to redirect your inner current toward a more intentional identity. Through reflection and strategic questioning, you can challenge old patterns and cultivate empowering beliefs for personal growth and transformation. If you ever need my help... simply visit getclarity.co.za