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If you've had the same problem for a month or two, you are probably just stuck in solving easy problems, the ones you have solved a hundred times before. So instead, upgrade your problems. Get better problems. Make sure that as time goes by you are learning to solve bigger and more complex problems. Full episode, Why We Lose Momentum: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyqXDJz3xNk Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove you are stuck in. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

Six reasons momentum goes: three from the research, three from the work I do with people. Pick yours. FREE - the RUT Diagnostic, three minutes: https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/ Watch next, what regret is actually for: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU I'm going to give you six reasons we lose momentum. Three of them come from the research, and three of them come from what I see in the work I do with people. Pick the one that's most relevant to you, and use it to get your momentum back. Momentum doesn't work like a ramp, starting small and building. It works more like a smile. High at the start, low in the middle, high again at the end. The middle is the dip. It's the boring part, where you do the same thing over and over long after it stopped being exciting. That's where momentum goes. And instead of crossing the dip, we go back to the start, where the energy is high and free. The three from the research: we misunderstand how momentum works, progress gets so small that it turns invisible, and we want the reward now, while the reward for anything big sits a long way off. The three from my own experience: addiction to novelty, which is a new course, a new podcast, a new idea, anything that feels like progress without crossing the dip. Craving easy problems, the ones you've already solved a hundred times, instead of the one you don't know how to solve yet. And avoiding the mirror, because proper reflection shows you things you would rather not find. In this video I use one example the whole way through, changing careers. If yours is getting fit, or writing a book, or starting a business, swap it in. It works exactly the same. If I had to point you at one of the six, it's the last one. Look at what you find in the mirror. That's how you get your momentum back. The RUT Diagnostic takes three minutes and tells you which groove you are stuck in right now, routine, uncertainty or trance: https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/ MORE VIDEOS What regret is actually for: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU Stuck in a pretty good life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJeRkyYV2tA The Getting Unstuck series, five videos: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYr4VXEPUU5o The loop that keeps you stuck: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdZGSQr9kBE What you are really avoiding: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5ihPiQ_QOI Starting when everything feels too much: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mKLdHsbgslY Choosing when you cannot be certain: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ln10DW4kbko Getting stuck again, and coming back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWQNvOCifPQ CHAPTERS 00:00 Six reasons we lose momentum 00:35 Momentum works like a smile 04:11 Progress can be so small it's invisible 05:39 We want the reward now 07:23 Addiction to novelty 08:49 Craving easy problems 10:29 Avoiding the mirror 13:11 Pick the one that's most relevant to you MORE Work with me: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/work-with-me Fresh Perspective, my weekly newsletter: https://francoisesterhuizen.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=097ed8fb3c6e3c943817d0d80&id=7a7438d8f4 My website: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com I am Francois Esterhuizen. I work with capable, responsible people who are stuck somewhere that does not respond to more effort. This channel is where that work happens in public.

If you just make peace with something you regret, you pay the fee without gaining the lessons, and you cannot invest those lessons into the rest of your life. Making peace can be hard. It is still easier than extracting the lesson, integrating it and investing it. Full episode, How To Deal With Life's Biggest Regrets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove you are stuck in. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

I thought I could do anything. What I was really saying was that I wanted to do everything, and that is a very different thing. You can do almost anything. You can't do everything, because you have to invest your time, energy and attention somewhere. I call that TEA, and TEA equals life. Full episode, How To Deal With Life's Biggest Regrets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove you are stuck in. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

Instead of paying with regret, we pay with effort, with failure, with embarrassment. Trying things, going after things, fully committing. We also pay with our confidence a little bit, and that is part of why we fear trying anything that is not guaranteed to work. Full episode, How To Deal With Life's Biggest Regrets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove you are stuck in. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

Everyone pays for regret in some way. If regret is a trap, you pay with lost potential and lost time. If regret is a teacher, you have a choice in the future to not repeat that lesson again, and you do not have to go back to that teacher and ask to be taught it twice. Full episode, How To Deal With Life's Biggest Regrets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove you are stuck in. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

Finish this sentence. This season of my life is about. Staying in the lanes and maintaining my speed do not count. When you cannot finish it with clarity, your days and weeks go on cruise control, and the years slip away without anything bad to point at. Full episode, Stuck in a Pretty Good Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJeRkyYV2tA Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove runs deepest for you. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

Regret is a very expensive teacher. You pay in time and you pay in potential, lost time and lost potential. There is no bursary for this. You pay the full tuition fee. Full episode, How To Deal With Life's Biggest Regrets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove you are stuck in. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

A life on cruise control wears three grooves into your weeks. Routine, where the weeks run on repeat. Uncertainty, where you find it hard to choose a direction and go looking for more advice instead. Trance, where other people's needs decide your day and a whole month goes by without you noticing. One of them usually runs deeper than the others, and knowing which one decides which way out will actually work for you. Full episode, Stuck in a Pretty Good Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJeRkyYV2tA Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove runs deepest for you. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

If I choose one path, I'm letting go of all the others. That is why choosing felt dangerous to me for years, and why I pursued everything a little bit and nothing properly. My big lesson from that time is one sentence. Make a strong choice and execute. Full episode, How To Deal With Life's Biggest Regrets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K1WDGperNKU Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove you are stuck in. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/

I could tell you that I've made peace with my thirties. Really I haven't. This is what I did instead. FREE - the RUT Diagnostic, three minutes: https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/ Watch next, Stuck in a Pretty Good Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJeRkyYV2tA There's a lot about my thirties that I regret, and regret deeply. I could tell you that I've made peace with that, but really I haven't. At the end of 2007 I had been married for about five months, I'd quit full-time ministry and we'd moved to Cape Town. Three major life changes all at once. Not something I would recommend. I had sponsors, so there wasn't money pressure. I had a lot of different options, and that was part of the problem for me. All these different possibilities, and choosing one of them felt dangerous, felt hard. Because if I choose one path, I'm letting go of all the others. So I'd think about pursuing one thing and say no, wait, wait, wait. And then I'd pursue them all at once, all a little bit. What I've done instead, I think, helped me more than just making peace with it. Because sometimes making peace with something in the past means you don't really get what you are supposed to get from it. You're not learning anything, you just accept it. Accept the regret, accept that you've wasted time, accept that you've wasted potential. Regret is inevitable. Regrets are painful. And that pain can either trap us or teach us. It's a very expensive teacher, regret, because you pay in time and you pay in potential. There's no bursary for this. You pay the full tuition fee. We all pay in some way. But you can choose how you want to pay, where you are now. Instead of paying with regret, we pay with effort, we pay with failure, we pay with embarrassment. My big lesson looking back: make a strong choice and execute. In this video I take you through what I call passing the class. Extract the lesson. Integrate it, allow it to change your world view. And then invest it into your next chapter, so that the school fees you paid in lost time and lost potential now get invested and can compound. If you just make peace with something, that doesn't happen. If there's a time in your life that you regret, whatever it is, this one is for you. The RUT Diagnostic takes three minutes and tells you which groove you are stuck in right now, routine, uncertainty or trance: https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/ MORE VIDEOS Stuck in a pretty good life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJeRkyYV2tA The Getting Unstuck series, five videos: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYr4VXEPUU5o The loop that keeps you stuck: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IdZGSQr9kBE What you are really avoiding: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l5ihPiQ_QOI Starting when everything feels too much: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mKLdHsbgslY Choosing when you cannot be certain: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ln10DW4kbko Getting stuck again, and coming back: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWQNvOCifPQ CHAPTERS 0:00 The first five years 1:19 Regret is inevitable, painful, a trap or a teacher 2:13 An expensive teacher, no bursary 3:00 What happened in Cape Town, and the lesson 4:51 How you pay instead 5:30 Passing the class: extract, integrate, invest 7:41 Invest the lesson into your next chapter 9:28 The invitation MORE Work with me: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com/work-with-me Fresh Perspective, my weekly newsletter: https://francoisesterhuizen.us5.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=097ed8fb3c6e3c943817d0d80&id=7a7438d8f4 My website: https://www.francoisesterhuizen.com I am Francois Esterhuizen. I work with capable, responsible people who are stuck somewhere that does not respond to more effort. This channel is where that work happens in public.

Life on cruise control is a life with no one putting their hands on the steering wheel. You can be moving every single day and still feel stuck, because there is no clear direction any more. You are no longer moving away from something and you are no longer moving towards something. Maybe you used to. Full episode, Stuck in a Pretty Good Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JJeRkyYV2tA Free, three minutes: the RUT Diagnostic tells you which groove runs deepest for you. https://clarityquest.francoisesterhuizen.com/rut/