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In this candid, unscripted chat, Bouwer sits down with his long-time friend and life coach, ME! to explore the inner world behind success, stuckness, and the desire for more. We talk about what it means to chase your dream, confront your fears, and break through the limiting beliefs that hold you back, even when everything on the outside looks like it’s going well. We unpack the practical and emotional tools that help people move from stuck to clear, and from surviving to thriving. If you’re feeling stuck, uncertain, or like you’re only living at 60% of your potential, this is for you. 👉 Want to explore coaching or join The Clarity Quest open day (free)? Visit https://getclarity.co.za Topics we touch on in this episode: – Why we stay stuck even when life looks “successful” – What life coaching actually is (and isn’t) – The role of creativity, fear, and identity in growth – What it really costs to pursue your dream – The importance of structure, habits, and support

People-pleasing is draining. Boundaries are healing. In this video, I dive into the emotional toll of constantly trying to make others happy—at the cost of your own joy, needs, and dreams. If you've ever felt like you're setting yourself on fire just to keep others warm, this is for you. You’ll learn: ✔️ Why people-pleasing leads to burnout ✔️ How to set healthy boundaries without guilt ✔️ How to protect your energy and find emotional independence This is a powerful mindset shift for anyone feeling stuck, exhausted, or resentful in relationships. ✨ Free your potential — go to https://getclarity.co.za to get started.

If you’re feeling restless in midlife, like there’s more to you than the life you’re living, his video is for you. Midlife is not a crisis. It’s an invitation. In this video, I share the 5 steps that helped me get clear on what I want and start building a life that actually fits. No fluff. Just a clear process that works, if you're ready to do the work.

In this video, I explore one of the most destructive emotions I see in coaching sessions: guilt. Guilt might look like morality or responsibility on the surface, but more often it leads to disconnection — from people, from God, and even from ourselves. It makes us hide. It makes us perform. And it keeps us stuck. We talk about: Why guilt often feels holy, but actually distances us from healing The difference between guilt and conviction — and why it matters What to do when someone doesn’t forgive you Why we sometimes mistake guilt for pride How guilt shapes our faith, especially in Calvinistic cultures And how to shift from guilt-driven living to conviction-based restoration If you've ever felt stuck in guilt, or if you've struggled to reconnect after failure, this might offer a fresh way forward. Get Unstuck. Get Clarity. 👉 https://getclarity.co.za

Commit to the path that’s yours alone: https://getclarity.co.za You’ve made it this far. Not because someone dragged you. But because you kept showing up. In this final session of the Unstuck Series, South African life coach François Esterhuizen brings everything home with one simple truth: the work of growth is yours. And that’s what makes it real. This session will help you: Let go of the belief that someone else has your answer Honour the practice of showing up, even in the quiet Recommit to the path you’re on—not perfectly, but with integrity This work isn’t flashy. But it’s sacred. And no one else can do it for you. 📌 Recorded live and edited to preserve the power of the message and protect the privacy of those present. #FrancoisEsterhuizen #ClarityQuest #Unstuck #LifeCoach #SelfLeadership #GrowthJourney #DoTheWork

Start living the shift: https://getclarity.co.za You’ve read the books. You’ve journaled. You’ve had the insight. And yet… the pattern is still there. In this honest and catalytic session, South African life coach François Esterhuizen speaks to the overthinker, the over-preparer, the person stuck in cycles of awareness without action. This session will help you: Understand why insight doesn’t always lead to change Recognise the cost of staying in your head Take one small step toward living something new You don’t need another breakthrough. You need to make a new choice. 📌 Originally recorded live and edited with care to honour both privacy and impact. #FrancoisEsterhuizen #ClarityQuest #Overthinking #BreakTheCycle #LifeCoach #GetUnstuck #PersonalGrowth

Set boundaries without guilt: https://getclarity.co.za You don’t need to keep overgiving to be loved. You don’t need to explain every no. You don’t need to apologise for taking care of your capacity. In this steady and affirming session, South African life coach François Esterhuizen helps you reclaim boundaries as a form of love—not distance. You’ll learn: Why healthy boundaries strengthen real connection How to stop managing other people’s discomfort What it looks like to trust that the right people will honour your clarity Boundaries are how you teach others to love the version of you that’s no longer available for burnout. 📌 This session was recorded live and edited with care to honour privacy and clarity. #FrancoisEsterhuizen #ClarityQuest #Boundaries #SelfRespect #LifeCoach #GetUnstuck #EmotionalClarity

Make the boring things sacred again: https://getclarity.co.za You’ve been waiting for the spark. The turning point. The moment it all shifts. But what if that moment is already here—disguised as your next small step? In this no-hype, grounded session, South African life coach François Esterhuizen reminds you that the real transformation doesn’t come from breakthroughs. It comes from follow-through. This session will help you: Reframe consistency as something meaningful, not mechanical Let go of perfectionism and choose presence Start honouring the quiet, ordinary work that actually changes you Real change doesn’t always feel exciting. But it always feels honest. 📌 Originally recorded live and edited for privacy and depth. #FrancoisEsterhuizen #ClarityQuest #FollowThrough #RealChange #Consistency #LifeCoach #GetUnstuck

Step into who you’re becoming: https://getclarity.co.za You don’t need to reject who you used to be. But you also don’t need to stay there. In this honest and deeply grounding session, South African life coach François Esterhuizen guides you through the tender space between gratitude and growth—the part where you recognise that an older version of you got you here… but can’t take you further. This class will help you: Let go of identities that no longer fit without guilt Honour the role your past self played in your survival Create space for who you’re becoming—without rushing the process Growth isn’t always forward motion. Sometimes it begins with a quiet thank you and a gentle goodbye. 📌 Originally recorded live and edited with care to honour privacy and deepen clarity. #FrancoisEsterhuizen #ClarityQuest #LifeCoach #LetGo #SelfGrowth #GetUnstuck #IdentityShift

Reconnect with the version of you who follows through: https://getclarity.co.za You don’t need another productivity hack. You need a reason to keep showing up—especially when it’s hard. In this honest and quietly powerful session, South African life coach François Esterhuizen reframes discipline as a form of self-remembrance. It’s not about pressure. It’s about honouring the version of you who said yes to this in the first place. This class will help you: Let go of all-or-nothing thinking Build trust by showing up in ordinary moments Remember that small actions, repeated often, create identity Discipline isn’t about performance. It’s how you remind yourself who you’re becoming. 📌 This session was recorded live and edited to protect privacy while preserving the clarity of the message. #FrancoisEsterhuizen #ClarityQuest #Discipline #SelfTrust #Consistency #LifeCoach #GetUnstuck

Trade burnout for peace: https://getclarity.co.za Somewhere along the way, we started believing that stress is noble. That pressure proves you care. That growth requires exhaustion. But what if that’s not true? In this countercultural and grounding session, South African life coach François Esterhuizen invites you to question the noise—and rebuild your rhythm from peace instead of pressure. This session will help you: Recognise how pressure has become your default setting Stop confusing urgency with importance Rebuild your life around nervous system safety—not constant stress You don’t have to suffer your way to transformation. There’s another way. 📌 Originally recorded live and edited to keep the insight clear and the space safe. #FrancoisEsterhuizen #ClarityQuest #BurnoutRecovery #PeaceOverPressure #LifeCoach #PersonalGrowth #GetUnstuck

Rebuild trust with yourself: https://getclarity.co.za Confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you earn—in the quiet, ordinary moments when no one’s watching. In this steady and grounded session, South African life coach François Esterhuizen unpacks what real confidence is made of: keeping promises to yourself. You’ll learn: Why broken self-promises slowly erode your belief How to rebuild confidence with small, quiet acts of follow-through What it looks like to stop performing confidence and start living it You don’t need to feel ready. You need to show up in a way that makes you trustworthy to yourself. 📌 Recorded live. Edited with care to focus the insight and protect the personal. #FrancoisEsterhuizen #ClarityQuest #BuildConfidence #SelfTrust #LifeCoach #PersonalGrowth #GetUnstuck