Updated: Oct 13, 2021

If you've asked your partner, family member or a friend this question before, you’ve probably also heard this answer... “NOTHING!”

The way that the "nothing" is delivered, confirms your suspicion that there is actually something wrong. And it might be even worse than you thought!

Why does such a simple, innocent question sometimes trigger such a negative reaction? Isn't it good to be concerned? I've heard many people (including myself) complain about something along the lines of: “I can see something is wrong, but when I ask, all I get is: 'Nothing!'"

Here is the secret, my friend: asking “what is wrong?” is part of what’s wrong. It's a mistake. A mistake we repeat again and again. Every time we ask the same question, we get the same reaction, yet the next time we notice that something's up... we just repeat the same question. Then we are very surprised when we get the same reaction. Isn’t that insane? To explain what I mean by this, let's look at the definition of wrong. What does it mean? Thank you, Google:

adjective not correct or true; incorrect. "that is the wrong answer" unjust, dishonest, or immoral. "that was wrong of me"

adverb in an unsuitable or undesirable manner or direction. "what am I doing wrong?" noun an unjust, dishonest, or immoral act. "I have done you a great wrong"

verb act unjustly or dishonestly towards. "they would kill a man who wronged a family" mistakenly attribute bad motives to; misrepresent. "Perhaps I wronged him"